Wash her with the Word. Men, one way to help your wife grow in grace is to give her a sabbatical. Send her off occassionally for a night in a different place and give her a powerful book and a meaty sound recording. Make sure she brings a craft or two that she never gets to at home because of her family responsibilities. A nice hotel may make the arrangements easy, but you may want to give her a different kind of experience. An agrarian bed and breakfast is probably better for reflection. A night in a Mennonite-like community may also be eye-opening.